Are you feeling disconnected from your partner and unsure of how to get back to that close bond you once shared? Do you feel unable to communicate with each other? Are you hoping to rebuild your relationship after the devastation of an affair? Are you feeling hurt and alone and unsure of how to change things?
Relationships are extremely complex and given this complexity it is understandable that they can be so challenging at times. Each partner has their own past experiences, distinct family of origin issues, needs and expectations of the relationship and these may be in opposition to their partner’s needs. This can contribute to a relationship that is full of dissatisfaction or painful interactions.
Negative Cycle in Relationships
We recognize the central importance of relationships in the overall well-being of individuals, couples and families. We want to help you break the negative cycles in your relationship and discover a deeper, more fulfilling connection with your partner and family members.
Emotionally Focused Therapy
We often utilize Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT) and provide relationship counseling from this framework. EFT is empirically proven to be the most effective model of couples therapy in the world. Studies show that 85-90% of couples who have received EFT report significant improvement in relationship satisfaction. EFT helps couples establish the kind of strong, secure bond that helps partners experience a safe, loving and fulfilling relationship.
EFT interprets distress in a relationship as the result of a threat or rupture of the emotional bond or “connection” between partners. When this occurs, we are left with coping mechanisms that throw us into negative cycles or “dance” that highjacks the relationship. The result is emotional distance between the couple. Negative cycles often result in expressions of frustration, resentment, criticism and anger.
We helps couples identify and understand the choreography of the negative dance that drives them apart and blocks the free flow of love, understanding and empathy between them.
Once the “cycle” is clearly mapped out and understood, couples are able to:
- Correctly identify each other’s emotional cues
- Safely and effectively express their needs
- Discover a new way of reinforcing and strengthening the kind of secure emotional bond we all long for